THE MOST IMPORTANT THING

The most important lesson life has taught me, through both good times and challenges, is that the most essential relationship I’ll ever have is with myself and my creative drive. I can’t imagine my existence without feeling, nurturing, and constantly exploring the creator within me.

To be a creator, I have learned that being able to stand still is essential. Stopping time, and the outside world, and creating my own space, is what I call my imaginative art studio, I return to any time I can.

Creation can mean a lot of different things to us. It is creating a meal, creating a thought, creating an image or video that captures feelings, and moods.

Creating meaningful and unforgettable moments with other humans however is an elevated experience, and makes our heart beat stronger, and our soul more connected to others. I left a space and city behind that didn’t seem to work for me anymore when it comes to making real connections and getting creative inspiration. I felt a bit trapped and in a kind of loop, swimming in a constant rush from one thing to another. And still, it didn’t fill my soul as I wished, especially with that feeling of togetherness. I would have chosen that place to keep advancing and securing my career and finances. Although I still know, that my ability to create always travels with me. I can only feel where it is blocked and where it is flourishing more easily. I needed to be brave and make a change. But what most of you don’t see is that it required lots of moments of sitting down with myself, and mind-mapping emotions, relationships, dreams, fears, goals, projects … I also turned to read some books and talked to older souls.

I believe that when we’re constantly running through life, filling our days with events and moments, it can feel satisfying to consume a lot of information simply because everyone around us is doing the same. We are part of it, and we want to belong, right. But by spending our mental energy on too much consumption rather than limiting it and spending it on creation instead, it’s no surprise we often end the day or week feeling drained and empty. Our bodies eventually remind us to pause and reflect. It often shows in illness that will make us finally face the essence of life.

While I’m not one for overthinking, I notice that many of us struggle with just being with ourselves—or even avoid it altogether. I know it can feel strange, and yes, lonely at times. But it’s you, and you should always feel great spending time with yourself.

You would think that only drug addicts, sick and depressed people need a shift in lifestyle, a lot of healing, and a lot of work on themselves to feel needed, belonging, and worthy of love. But I know for sure through observation that a lot of us not dealing with those challenges, also need that shift.

One of my older best male friends said today, he doesn’t know what to prioritise and gets distracted all the time. He is not sure if he should focus on progressing his career, finding a new job, or prioritising finding a girlfriend, or changing countries. I would say that love and people should be prioritised.
But to find and keep the right people and connections you still need to know who you are when you are alone, just by yourself. So, who are you?

One way to find out, I believe is that we should find and give ourselves creative ‘projects'. Something we can work on, and something we are leaving behind as a memory piece of ourselves, like a little legacy or beautiful footprint. And through these creative endeavors which do not need to be only rooted in art, I know we can make the strongest possible connections to other people. Don’t just rush through your life. Stop. Here, right now…what ideas are coming to your mind? What do you like to create?

Need someone to talk about it. Simply reach out to me.